If You Whispered in Your Ear (Infinite Ways)

If you look back in time, you can trace back the evolution of things and how they turned out to be the way they are now.

The longer we live, the longer we can see how the decisions we made and how the circumstances in life took us where we are and made us the way that we are. It’s a little like a massive maze we walk without really knowing how to get out. People will join you for part of your walking, some others will leave. There are infinite possibilities of how things would turn out and it’s only when you stop and think, that you can look back and see the way you’ve walked. 

Lately I’ve been thinking in particular moments from which I could outline the journey my life has travelled and realize the course of events. It’s like tracking in a map the turns that have taken you to where you are in the maze right now.

I’m sure there are many situations that surprised us by turning out the way they did.

Sometimes I re-live in my mind past moments while trying to think about how things evolved after that. I feel now I have a better understanding. Every day we are given a few more pages of the book.

When I was younger, I would have never imagined the places that I’d go to and the things that I’d experience, both good and bad. Now I go back in time in my mind and imagine myself whispering things in the ear of my younger self, things like “in a few years you’ll be doing this, or that”.

I see myself whispering in my ear almost 20 years ago, sitting in a bus and telling that self how the boy I so often would sit next to would be the person I’d share my life with so many years down the line.

It is tempting to think that maybe we whisper in our ears all the time and we follow the paths we are told. I wonder whether I am whispering in my ear in this very moment and what I would be saying.


(This post best read while listening to:

Ghost Train by Counting Crows)


The Old Ways

How long does it take us to go back to the old ways?

I remember when I started to learn how to drive: there was no way I could stay straight on the road without the help of an instructor, taking control of the steering wheel and bringing me back to the center of the lane.

Now I don’t even have to think to drive straight. One-handed if needed. While thinking about a thousand other things or while singing along to whatever it’s playing on the radio.

From time to time we all need to be reminded to stay on the road. Whether it is the right road, the road to change, the better road. We’re all going somewhere but might go astray some times. The only thing that we need is a soft and kind reminder to correct it.

It is alright to stray, and of course for others as well. Just the same way that we sometimes need that push, others might need it too, so be kind when bringing someone back to the road and remember that just a gentle pull should be enough.


(This post best read while listeling to:

Sweet Disposition by The Temper Trap)